I met my husband at the beginning of the year 2000 in Jogjakarta. At that time we were a Humanity volunteer. First impression, I think he is arrogant and ostentatious-looking, hehe ... He also appeared to think otherwise of me.
We run our friendship strangely in the first place. We never really are. We just know each other at glance.
In the Mid 2000, I worked as a secretary in one of the party. In fact, my husband was also joining in the party as a cadre from Jogjakarta. Sometimes when he came to Jakarta, he came around to my room just to say hello. But almost all people who came to the Central Jakarta office also certainly do so. So, there was nothing special.
At that time, he and I have a partner. Therefore, we might not be too concerned about and cared one another. But strange, my boss (Chairman of the Public Party) always matchmade me with him. Do not know what the reason. I just thought that wind ago just because we do indeed have a close friend.
In 2002 or 2003, he moved to Jakarta by the Chairman of General Party Branch and placed in Central Jakarta. Office happens to be one with the central office. Nevertheless, we rarely met or chat. Only occasionally because we were busy. Accidentally at the time there was 2004 elections. So, I was also very busy with my job.
In August 2003, I broke up because of my religious differences, age and distance. Several months later, I was closed to a man and quite serious at the time, but the relationship was only survived for six months. Early 2004, I broke up again. After some time the relationship was not smooth, I felt like lived in the middle of nowhere, because I had a lot of hope from that my relationship. In fact, God has not opened the road. Until finally I ask God to give me a good mate according to his vision and not according to my vision, I vowed and promised God that the man who first asked to marry me would become my husband.
Since that time I no longer tried to find or establish a relationship with a man.
Mid 2004, my husband was looking for me to my office. Eventhough we’re working in the same office building, but we rarely met. Whereas my office was in the first floor and hisoffice was on the top floor. That time, new elections was just finished, so the office activities were not too busy as before. Then, he said he would like to chat with me. He told me if he has just ended his relationship. His former partner wanted to marry one of his co-workers. Something that he could not accept was that some people say that she was ‘entranced' by the man. Then, I told him I have an uncle who has an ability to deal with things like that. Briefly, I helped him to meet my uncle.
At that time I helped him purely because of our friendship. Because I know how it feels to be hurt and left. I even had time to get to gather him with my friends so that he could cheer up. Until finally he said that he was ok. Wow, I was very relieved hearing the news.
Until a week later, he asked me to marry him. This was something that I do not like and want. When the first time he asked me, I just thought it was a joke. In fact, a few days later he again asked me o marry him. In my mind at that time: 'I do not want to be a second place to go'. But because I didn’t want offend him, I said, 'Wait until 6 months. " Honestly, that time I was also in love with another person, therefore I talked like that so that he would go away. Several days later, he invited me to play a kite in the garden in the roof of the office. Because that time I also didn’t have jobs and read the novel, I thought it was also fun to read novel in the garden.
Nearly the afternoon, suddenly his friends were all disappeared. I didn’t know whether it was commanded or accidental. Well, when there were only him and me, he asked me to marry him again. I had been preparing to refuse it again but then I remembered my promise to God. I promised that the man who first asked to marry him(after failing several times)would be my husband. At that moment, I thought if he was a mate sent for me and I rejected him, then I would lose the match given by God. But how did I know if he was my mate. Because I didn’t know if he was my mate or not, then I remembered my Father. I did something wrong with father and feel very sorry for afterwards, but I didn’t know how to redeem it. I thought this was one way I could redeem my mistake at once, asked for the blessing from my parents. At that time, I just believed if we were blessed by parents inshaAllah everything would run smoothly. Then I said, if he seriously wanted to marry me, he had to ask my father, if my father agreed, we married, but if not, there would be ok. And he accepted it.
Two weeks later he came to meet me and all of my families. A week before, I have told my father I had a friend that would like to meet, because he would marry me. I didn’t affect my parents a bit to accept or not. Overall, I gave it all directly on the meeting that day. Shortly, my father accepted the proposal. We then planned and prepared for the wedding. Several months later, precisely on 26 December 2004, he came with his family, proposed me officially. Six months later, exactly on June 11th 2005 we officially held the title of husband and wife. Actually we wanted a more quickly & simple wedding, but our parents want to give the best for us. So, we also must follow the wishes of our parents and families.
I met my wife at the first time when I and my friend visited her in the dormitory. She was the center manager of the dormitory where she worked for. She had double job as the manager and nurse as well at that time.
